I have been formally diagnosed with moderate dyslexia and severe dyscalculia, which means that my brain is wired in a ‘divergent’ way. 

Although I am still awaiting a formal diagnosis; I know I am autistic. I fully respect anyone who self-diagnoses, as formal diagnosis can often cost thousands of dollars and require long waiting times, which just aren’t accessible for many people.

I like to believe that anyone identifying as neurodivergent isn’t doing it for fun but has, like me, put in hours of research to come up with their evaluation. 

I am unsure if I have ADHD at this point. I do have some noticeable traits, but due to the nature of autistic traits, the two can often cancel each other out and make both harder to identify. Therefore, I just place myself in the ‘maybe’ section for ADHD until I can find out more about it.

I have tried many different approaches for my endometriosis. I have had two laparoscopy surgeries to remove endometrial cells throughout my body, which have helped to varying degrees. I spent a year off dairy, eggs, soy, and gluten with minimal impact. I have also seen every doctor and alternative medicine practitioner I can think of.

The thing I have found to help the most has been breathwork—I have released a lot of stored trauma in my body, creating a real shift in my hormonal and emotional imbalances as well as my physical symptoms. Another thing that has helped significantly is a womb massage, which similarly allowed me to connect to my feminine side and move lots of energy and muscle tightness. I am now moving into new levels of health surrounding diet and prenatal care, which will continue to work on both emotional and physical shifts.

I find change very difficult; however, over recent months, I have realised that much of it is about ensuring I am truly in alignment with the change. There is rarely a problem if I am aligned with it.

For example, if I am feeling excited, motivated, and social, and someone changes our quiet dinner plans to bowling with friends, I am naturally in alignment with that change and feel good about it.

When I bought our house, my husband and I had been working towards that for a while, and I had a relatively clear idea of what I wanted, if not as an image, then as a feeling.

I find that when things go wrong, it is because I am not actually ready or happy about the change. For instance, if I’m all set up for focused work and a friend pops by, this shift could cause internal conflict because it goes against what I was both ready for and feeling into.

What helps me most is being ready for change and prepared for chaos. For example, when my husband took me away on a surprise holiday, I was okay because I was prepared for surprises.

The second thing is to allow myself time to adjust and check in with myself to see if I really want this change and if it serves me, or if I can get myself behind it. If not, I need to often need to give myself more time or adjust the change where possible.

My confidence comes from my mum being unaware of how autism presented in little girls and pushing me to come out of my shell. She would get me to ask the waiter for water at a restaurant, ask questions, and speak up for my needs. Although this led to masking, I am very grateful for this upbringing because it has allowed me to move through life with much more ease.

To me, confidence is about honouring what you are good at and being honest about what you are not. I can confidently tell a volunteer committee that I can’t be put down as treasurer because I can’t do maths. I have no shame in what I am bad at—I am good at so many other things, it really doesn’t matter.

I think that being brutally honest with yourself also builds confidence, because it’s when we compare ourselves to others or expectations of ourselves that we often fall down. If we are really honest, we know where our failings are and can then decide to either fix them or accept them; therefore, there is nothing to worry about anymore.

Finally, I am confident because I know what impact it has on other people. I am here to help, inspire, and educate, and I can’t do that if I am not shining bright.

I will be releasing a variety of courses, classes, and educational information. I want to help inspire and uplift people so they can embrace their true selves, discover what works for them, and be supported in changing one of the most challenging but rewarding parts of who they are.

What I offer isn’t a ‘how to’. It’s a transformative experience that peels away layers to uncover what is holding you back from being your truest, most powerful self.

This isn’t about becoming a ‘better version’ of yourself or ‘improving’ or even ‘growing’. It’s about becoming more of who you already are.

Currently I haven’t set up my email list yet, but I plan to get that up and running ASAP. If you would like to connect with me in the meantime though, you can DM me on Instagram or leave a comment on one of my YouTube videos – I would love to hear from you.